While searching for Bridesmaid card ideas, I stumbled upon this article on the Daily Mail. Needless to say, I found the idea hilarious and knew I had to have them for my bridesmaids–a Bridesmaid Agreement.
Of course, it’s all very tongue-in-cheek and not to be taken seriously. Simply put, it’s simply a contract between you and your bridesmaids–a sort-of pre-nup agreement (anyone obsessed with the TomKat divorce will have seen this repeatedly on the Internet). The original contract I found was cute but I didn’t find it applicable since Muslim weddings are generally held differently so the clauses didn’t make sense. Which meant, I had to customize one from scratch.
Mind you, it took me no fewer than 3 hours to draft the agreement. The idea was to have it sound mockingly official and reminiscent of an actual contract. And the contents were filled with requirements and duties of the bridesmaids. I did not have the time to make individual contracts for each of my 4 bridesmaids so I made one version and gave them each a copy. I had placed the contracts in those large brown manila envelopes that is often used for mailing important documents to add to authentic feel of the agreement. In the envelope was also the Bridesmaids cards I had made (see the post I wrote here). I told my friends to read the cards first (which basically read “Will you be my Bridesmaid?) and before they agreed they would have to read the accompanying document.
The expressions on my friends faces were priceless. We were talking about something completely unrelated and I pulled out 4 large manila envelopes from my bag and passed them to my friends. They became so excited thinking it was some present (one later told me she thought I was giving them airplane tickets; who do they think I am? Haha). But their surprised turned into shrieks of laughter as they each read the agreements! They knew me well enough (11 years of friendship can make people closer) to take everything in the exact tone I wanted. After they read it, I had them sign (Yes, I actually brought out a pen from my bag and made them sign) at the bottom of the document to officiate matters.
This was just something I wanted to do for my bridesmaids for fun–make the entire experience memorable. And it only cost me the $2 it took to buy the paper from Popular. I went for a simple shiny white/silver cardstock and printed them directly on the sheets. The manila envelopes I just took from my dad’s office, but you can get those at any Singapore Post center.
The contract was something very me–sarcastic, a little weird and lame. It really doesn’t matter what you write. The original contract from the website just didn’t feel like me at all! Your bridesmaids are the girls you’ll be spending a lot of your time with (in my case, they’ll be planning my bridal shower/bachelorette party), and it was something to start off the madness with.
Being an obsessed and self-absorbed bride comes very naturally to me… I’m very lucky to have found a guy who can stand my antics–and trust me, I count my blessings everyday.